We all struggle with relationships at some time or another. But when is that struggle a major disruptor?
Think of the personal or work relationships that have gone sour on you. More than likely you experienced one of the following.
The person (habitually and not just temporarily)
1. Was not attuned to you (What was that that you said?)
2. Was self-absorbed (What’s in it for me?)
3. Projected their needs (I want you to make me look good)
4. Competed (Don’t tell me about your accomplishments)
5. Tried to control (Do things my way)
6. Wanted a nurse (Take care of me)
7. Had conflicting agendas – e.g. sexualized the relationship or tried to proselytize (Do things my way)
8. Assumed that you were like them. (Be like me)
Reflect on Your Relationships
What potential deal breakers you have experienced in relationships?
Were those behaviors really that big of a deal or were you sweating the “small stuff”?
What behaviors can you overlook and then within yourself recalibrate you expectations?
When do you have to limit contact with the other person or set clear boundaries?
When do you say, in the words of Lincoln, “I don’t like that person, I am going to have to get to know him/her better”?
You May Also Want to Read
1. Seeing I to I (January 2013)
2. Managing Difficult Employees (December 2012)
3. I Don’t Like That Person – It’s Really Me I’m Talking About (June 2011)
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