Celebrate rather than Compare

We live in a world where comparisons are the norm.

Your performance is compared to that of your peers

You look at your bigger house and feel superior to the other

You scan another’s weight and smugly view yourself as better

You get more “likes” on your posting than I do on mine

 The result.

On one hand, that comparison can spur one to greater effort and a drive to excellence.

But more than likely it can be dispiriting, demotivating, and separate us from others.

In discussing the impact of the grading system on students Ros and Ben Zander in “The Art of Possibility” write,

“competition puts a strain on friendships and too often consigns students to a solitary journey.”

 Furthermore, the dark side of competition can lead to

Pride rather than humility

Contempt rather than respect

Exclusion of differences rather than diversity being leveraged

Avoidance of a challenge rather than risking a new adventure

 A friend told me of a highly competitive academic institution where researchers hid their work from each other for fear that their work would be stolen. If they had celebrated each other maybe they would have realized the Spanish saying “juntos is mejor” (together is better).


 Would it not be more productive, respectful, and empowering for us to choose to celebrate others?

 What do we lose and what do we gain by choosing celebration?

 What do you think?







About cedricj

I am a licensed psychologist and management consultant and have always been intrigued by how leaders can inspire people in their organizations. The bottom line is that people are not always motivated by material rewards, the use of the carrot or the stick, fear and intimidation,and command and control, Five human needs inspire and drive us. Kristine S MacKain, Ph.D and myself describe these inspirational forces in our book "What Inspirational Leaders Do" (Kindle 2008)
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