“I’d Come Back as a Woman”

The other day someone asked a friend of mine a thought-provoking question; “If there were such a thing as reincarnation, would you come back as a woman or a man?”

 His answer surprised me, “A woman”

 Wait a minute,” I replied half-joking, “You mean that you would give up your societal advantage in being a white male?

 Here was his explanation

“Do you know how emotionally lonely it is to be a male at times?

Males are not generally socialized to make deep emotional connections. When I am in a group of men, all they seem to talk about is facts whether they be from sports, politics, or their professional world. They also like to tell stories that exclude one from any real conversation. Now while facts have a legitimate place in our lives, I far prefer being in the company of women who generally come from the heart rather than just the head.”

 I was quick to tell my friend that I have also known and gravitate towards males who are adept at making these emotional connections.

At this stage of life, like my friend,  I long more for sincere heart connections, reflectiveness about life, and personal authenticity. To me, this is the success factor for true conversation and connection. It is also the antidote to one feeling alone in life.

 In your opinion, what is the path to a satisfying emotional connection?



About cedricj

I am a licensed psychologist and management consultant and have always been intrigued by how leaders can inspire people in their organizations. The bottom line is that people are not always motivated by material rewards, the use of the carrot or the stick, fear and intimidation,and command and control, Five human needs inspire and drive us. Kristine S MacKain, Ph.D and myself describe these inspirational forces in our book "What Inspirational Leaders Do" (Kindle 2008)
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